Why do some people react violently when they feel rejected and some don’t?
Does it have anything to do with how we were brought up? I heard a very old song this morning that says “children live what they learn; children learn what they live…” LET US GIVE A LISTENING EAR TO THE VERSES OF THIS SONG
A semi conclusion then is that, how we are brought up has a lot to do with how we handle situations in our adult or semi-adult lives. I was brought up in a single parent home where I was left alone on numerous occasions even on Christmas day. Listen to Joyce Meyers, her dad sexually abused her for years. For me, that would be the worst thing that could ever happen to me and as Joyce has testified, it was a nightmare for her. There are many people out there who have been: used, abused, rejected over and over again, treated like garbage but they have decided NOT to become violent.
Struggling with rejection does not make us mentally ill. Therefore, there is no excuse why we should become violent. I know that sometimes when you see the person that hurt you prospering or is moving on with someone else, one might feel that God is unfair and become really angry. We think they don’t deserve to be happy, if we are not happy right? Wrong!!!! To think like that shows that we are living with jealousy, envy and that we have become bitter. Check this out – when we hurt someone and we apologize we want that person to forgive us right? Of course!!! The bigger picture, when we ask God to forgive us of our sins, we want Him to forgive us right? Not only that, we want God to bless us and prosper us after right? So, who are we to think that because that person hurt us they should be banished from the face of the earth or they should not be happy unless we are happy. How dare we place ourselves in God’s position. Repent! We need to beg God’s forgiveness now. I know it hurts like crazy to have your heart used for a toy, especially if this person was your friend.
Everything we go through in life is for a purpose. No, I’m not crazy! They are tests. Tests to make us stronger, if we pass them. Tests, for us to mature and to help us to become what God had plan for us all along. Tests, lessons and experience to help someone who will go through the exact same thing we went through and came out victorious. God did not promise us a bed of roses here on earth did He? No! Jesus went through the greatest test of all and why did He? For the salvation of the world. Yea Jesus!!! Thank you for enduring your test to save my soul/ our souls. 🙂 Also, we should learn not to make the same mistakes from these tests and if it was that you were abused or rejected as a child; well, your tests should have taught you what not to do in rearing your child/children. Or if you do not have children yet, then how not to treat other people’s children.
Okay, so the person that hurt you have not apologized and that makes you angry. Place it before the Lord be honest with God and tell Him how you feel and ask Him to help you to release this anger so that you can forgive this person. People, God is a just God and in scripture He says ” Vengeance is mine”. He will repay every man according to their work, be it good or evil. No one will escape, so we should not take things into our own hands. To add, if that person asked God to forgive them then they are forgiven so we need to let it go and move on with our lives.
Love you. Bless you.
God’s peace be with you.