Our second chance is still available


Hi guys

The only way we are going to get access to our second chance is to forgive everyone that has ever hurt us and that includes ourselves.  Forgiveness breaks the chains of: rejection, fear, bitterness, hatred, resentment, depression and thoughts of suicide.  Don’t you want to be at peace in your mind and soul?  I know I want to. I want to live my life to the fullest and enjoy it.  I said recently that we have to accept God’s forgiveness but we also must accept His healing.

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I love God so much.  He reaches deep down in the depths of us and pulls out all the hidden goodies that we allow the muck of the world to cover.  He is so unpredictable and amazing.  Most importantly, He loves us with an everlasting love.  Yes!  He loves us with all our: chains, baggage, problems, bad tendencies and imperfection.  You see, He will never get tired of us and reject us.  God is not like man, he is not like for instance, my dad who abandoned me.  He is not like those who deliberately hurt me/you.  He is not like your abusive spouse or family member.  He is not like that girl/guy that earned your trust only because they wanted to use you/us.  God gave up His son’s life for us while we were still in sin.  God is faithful.  He is dependable and trustworthy.  Jesus Christ is Lord!!!

Therefore, when He says you need to call your mom who abandoned you and tell her you are sorry for speaking badly about her and then tell her you love and forgive her.  It is in your best interest to be obedient.  He might require us to do certain things that are uncomfortable or seems impossible.  Like Jesus telling Peter to come out and walk on the water.  God knows what He is doing and He is working for our good.  He will definitely require us to TRUST Him and be patient as He works.Image

We will have to be willing to become vulnerable with God and obedient when he tells us to do something.  For instance, if He says to me I am to give my dad his second chance at being a father to me.  I would have to be obedient.  This would not be  easy for me to do.   It would be very scary for me to open up to S.G. but I would do it if it is going to help me heal.  Hmmmm, I wonder if that is what He is saying I should do now???

Our healer and comforter is gentle, He might not tear down all our walls/defenses at once because He does not want to destroy us but if we can bear that then He might.

I just want to share a revelation I got yesterday morning.  I was speaking with a family member and we were talking about certain tests and God working for our good.  Anyway, it dawned on me that God really does work out everything for our good.  Duh! I know but when the enemy attacks us hoping to destroy us, God allows it because we need to realize that there are still things in our lives that we need to either: let go, improve on, turn away from or repent of.  Therefore, though it hurts and it is hard, when we allow God to help us to get rid of or deal with these sins in our lives, it makes us stronger in Christ and draws us closer to Him.

So, instead of rejecting those God has placed in our lives to help with our healing, let us reject: unforgiveness, hate, depression, self-pity and bitterness.  The only way to accomplish this is by reading, meditating and applying the word of God in our everyday lives.

Think on these things



On the road to healing…. :D

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas.  I certainly did!

Do you remember me declaring that it was a new day and that I was going to embrace this family as my family?  Well, things have changed for the better since I started sharing myself more and making a greater effort to communicate with this family.  This Christmas was one of the best Christmas I have ever had.

Thank God!!!

Things are getting better with me and for me.  God is showing me things I need to do to help with my healing.  What about you?  What has happened with you?  You sharing  might help someone and help you.


We have scratch the surface of knowing who we are; we definitely need to dig deeper in that area but I need for us to look at forgiveness and self-pity.  The # one cause for rejection is: someone’s action towards us or negative words that others say about or to us, right?   So, we can then say that because our hearts have been trampled on, we have been abused and rejected,  it is okay to show our selves pity right?

I would have said right once up-on-a-time-ago but I realize that, that is wrong if I wanted to be freed/healed from living a life of always feeling rejected.  If we really want complete healing we have to forgive.  Yes! I said it.  We have to forgive everyone that has hurt us, we have to forgive ourselves and then we have to accept God’s forgiveness.  You may say, I am not at the place to forgive as  yet.  Well then, you are not at the place to be healed.  You may say, I have tried.  I tried talking to them to get them to apologize but they would not which made me hurt even more.  Well, guess what!  It is not for us to make persons who have rejected us apologize.  We can’t make people genuinely sorry for wronging us, that’s the Holy Spirit‘s job.  When someone wrongs us and we have feelings of resentment or hatred towards them, if we truly want to be freed and to be forgiven by God.  It is for us to go and say you hurt my feelings when you did this or said that and I am letting you know that I forgive you.   I know, I know that it is easier said than done but check this out.   We are forgiving them for our healing.  Yes!  some may gloat and try to make you feel belittled or make it harder for you to forgive them but we have to purpose in our hearts to forgive.  Note I said, we have to go and do!  Yes!  Take back our hearts, soul and emotions from the control of the past and rejection.

Take a look at this picture below.


When we choose to hate, resent and not forgive those who have hurt us.  We give rejection, hurt and resentment control over us.   We are literally placing ourselves in bondage as this picture depicts.  We are giving rejection the key to our freedom.  We have handed them control of us to wound us even more.  Get the picture?  Harboring these negative emotions in our hearts and soul holds us in the past and sets us up to be wounded over and over again.  They hold us back in the pain and prevent us from being happy and living the very prosperous life God has in store for us.

We need to forgive ourselves.  I use to meditate on statements like: how could I have let this happen, how could I have done that, how could I have believed that lie or how could I have allowed myself to be treated that way, etc… I could not forgive myself because in my mind I knew better.   So, along with rejection holding me back, there were condemnation  and haughtiness.   My mind was in the pit of bitterness and darkness.   I could not think straight, I found it so hard to sleep, I was heavy in my heart and I physically felt weighted down.  My soul use to hurt all the time and my face would portray how I felt.   What am I saying?  We have to forgive ourselves!  Yes! We make mistakes and we fall but we need to brush ourselves off and get right back up.  Come on!!! You can do this!!! I can do this!!!  🙂

Accepting forgiveness – I know that  not all of you are believers of Christ Jesus but I am and I can testify to the fact that He has helped and is helping me.  I believe that we also need to accept God’s forgiveness.  The bible says that if we confess our sins He is faithful and just and will forgive us and purify us of ALL unrighteousness.

Whatever wrong decisions we made that caused us to hurt or others to hurt.  If we admit our wrongs to God and those we hurt and ask God to forgive us.  He will and not only will He.  He will also make us clean.  It is like it never happen.

I may not know you but I love you and God loves you even more.

All the best for the New Year ;D


– Think on thes…

– Think on these things

“It is not how you start the race, it is how you finish”

“If you continue to live in the past, you will never see the future”

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Fools despise wisdom and instruction.” (Proverbs 1:7)

“If you live for yourself, you will die by yourself”

“The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest of them all”                      -Mulan

As promised.

Positive affirmations for  everyone:

  • I was not created accidentally.
  • I was created for a good purpose.
  • My destiny depends on the decision I make good or evil; therefore, I shall strive to make good decisions that will never cause arm to anyone including myself.
  • I was not born to be condemned.
  • I am not a failure though I am not the best at everything I do.

Positive affirmations for Christians:

  • I am a child of God (Jn. 1: 10) 
  • I am a branch of the true vine, and a conduit of Christ’s life. (Jn. 15:1, 5)
  • I am a friend of Jesus (Jn. 15:15)
  • I am justified and redeem (Rom. 3:24)
  • My old self was crucified with Christ and I am no longer a slave to sin (Rom. 6:6)
  • As a child of God; I am a fellow heir with Christ (Rom. 8:17)
  • I have been accepted by Christ. (Rom. 15:7)
  • I have been made complete in Christ (Col. 3:1)

That’s it for now.

May God’s peace be with you.

Talk soon.



Tis the season to be jollyyy!!!

Hi again,

I love Christmas!! Don’t you?

Before I get into the meat of the matter today.  I have this to say to you.  If you are feeling lonely, if you are without a family or your family this Christmas, here is a suggestion to you.  Go out and help someone.  Yea!! Volunteer at shelter, an orphanage or a senior citizens’ home.  Share a hug, a smile, be someones company that is alone, help someone to feel the way you want to feel and I guarantee that you will experience the joy, peace and love of God.

In the bible it says that “God places the lonely in families; he sets the prisoners free and gives them joy. But he makes the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land”. Psalm 68:6 NLT version.  His word is true.  He has placed me in families for years now but as I reflect, I am sadden because I did not appreciate the families he had placed me in.  I was so focus on wanting my own family that I could not accept or be grateful to God or those families I was placed in.  I am sorry KM and I thank you for sharing your family with me.   I tell you everyone, I am being helped as I share with you.

I am in a new family now and though I was shutting them out, I have a chance to change that.  Thank God!  Today is a new day!!  I shall embrace this family as my own as much as I can.  What am I getting at?  Well, do good and good things will happen to you.

I promised you something yesterday and I shall deliver.  I will fulfill my promise in my blog later.

Talk soon.

– think on these things.  You are not alone.  😀